It was a thrill to briefly meet Gabby and Laird Hamilton or, more appropriately, me giddily ask for a photo with two people I admire for their lifestyle: active, down-to-earth and inspiring. If I could relive that moment, I would have approached Gabby differently than I did but I was caught-off-guard and they were busy entertaining many at Laird’s paddle board booth.
As I navigate my way through this blogging world trying to figure-out how to enhance my site, here is my contact info posted as a post!
FB page: bicepmom
Thank you for your support and for sharing your journey with me. A little side note about how the name came to be…a friend and fellow blogger tossed-out this name while helping me with my blog and it stuck because it’s short, memorable and funny. Thank you newtritionsavvysarah.com (my friends’ blog and FB page name) for the name and your help! Check-out her site for her healthy tips on recipes, food and her favorite things.
“Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. – In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.”
I think I need to stop saying this is another favorite because so far each and every point of recent has been a favorite including this one (the complete list is shared point/day on my FB bicepmom page).
The Nike slogan “just do it” perfectly sums-up this one! Parting after 18 years of marriage was to give my ideas and dreams a chance. A recent quote I read seems so relevant here: “saying you have no option is relieving yourself of all responsibility”. I could have continued to believe and say I had no option but I did and it was one that required taking a chance: staying was certainty.
Yes I am a Mom and with that comes an enormous amount of responsibility and yes, I was a wife, with a partner who was my best friend who supported, encouraged and shared some of the most intimate moments and life’s joys at one point in time but, along the way of living life, things happen and change. I respect the father of my children and what we had but it no longer nourished and nurtured the me I am today.
Visualizing dreams is the first step and in between that and making them happen is daily life with intent: it’s like a stage backdrop that sets the tone and determines the actors’ words and actions. One of my dreams is to present my journey to women who are at a crossroads in life with an accompanying rapper ((yes, I have someone in particular in mind) while I peel away the layers of clothing that represent the should’s of Moms to share what I am today physically which is the result of a series of choices and is now my lifestyle. Fitness is the physical manifestation of my journey of creating and defining the me of today.
Six years ago this November, I took my first step into fitness and about 3 years ago I created this blog that started with a few entries and lay dormant until about 6 months ago. What has materialized since then with the blog is beyond what I had ever imagined or planned but is one of the driving forces behind living my dreams. BELIEVE because it’s your belief that will fuel your strength to start creating quantifiable changes in your life. The best part of living your passion and truth is that you start living the life of your dreams :). BELIEVE because it’s happening right now and right here :)!!
This past weekend was a whirlwind of activity, emotions and transition. I realized too how fortunate I have been with translating my thoughts into writing as I sat down this past weekend wanting to post to no avail. I think it was my mindset trying to process the “empty spaces” I was feeling for the first time without my children. And the empty space left by not communicating with a friend I recently met who is in a similar situation, divorced with children, who happened to come into my life quite unexpectedly.
2. Start facing your problems head on. – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch.
From my own experience, I know how difficult and easy it is to live in the “grey zone” of existence when it comes to life-altering decisions. This is exactly what I did regarding my marriage of 18 years. Now that it’s been made to part, I am exactly where I need and want to be and can say that I have seized control of my destiny and am the author of my life. Feeling blessed spending my first vacation as a sole parent with my children here in Oahu where we met my Dad and stepmom, I am hopeful and happy.
I have a purpose and a dream and I look forward to evolving, sharing and pursuing all that it entails. While things are happening, everything that has happened started with an action I assumed and initiated. I created an ad for my FB bicepmom page not really knowing how it would be received and who would respond but am humbled and thrilled by everyone sharing and supporting OUR journey to live our passion and truth.
With this blog, I had no expectations beyond sharing my fitness journey online. Recently a few companies have contacted me about advertising and product reviews on it. Feeling fortunate but also realizing that all that has transpired was initiated by action taken on my part by facing my problems head-on and seizing control of my destiny. No doubt, it was one of the hardest decisions of my life that affected not only me but my family and I believe it was a mutual one as well.
So now I position myself and am here to create the roadmap of my life rather than meander through the woods. Believe!! One life, our choices and our truth!!
I returned to our old home to pick-up a few items left behind and was taken aback by my emotional reaction upon seeing it empty being prepped for market. It was a clear indication of a chapter ended…almost 6 years since we relocated to the area. I never imagined this is where I’d be…then to pick-up the children at Daddy’s home and see them say bye for our long weekend together was all surreal.
Settling into my new home and moving forward, I am at peace and feel stronger each day and so thankful that the children seem to be doing well. No regrets making a decision to change a path I had chosen but unfortunately left me unhappy for a variety of reasons for which I partly assume.
Wiser now about my needs, my strengths, my growth areas and most importantly starting a new phase where each day is ready to be lived with passion and purpose. One life, no regrets, our choice…make it yours!! Believe!!
Sitting here at my ‘new local Starbucks’ as my internet service has yet to be connected. Thinking about all that has transpired this past weekend which is the culmination of a few years of counseling and a year of transition. Just spoke with my children on the phone and they are doing as well as can be and I’m so thankful their Dad and I were able to handle the situation amicably. Had a few tearful moments one of which was when their Dad returned a book which was a gift from me. He thought it was mine and hadn’t seen the inside cover note.
We are also both open to meeting others and were recently matched-up on an online dating site which was not only surreal but admittedly met with mixed emotions. I even felt a bit of jealousy but also relief as it’s a sign he is moving on as I am as well.
I’m preparing for a figure competition which has me on a food plan that is totally opposite of what I normally eat. I’m a carb person but this food plan is all protein. Since I’m not hitting my numbers for carbs and fats but most definitely have increased my protein intake, I’m gaining and wondering how this will all fall into place come show time. I’m committed for several reasons but most importantly to the mental discipline that will accompany this journey.
Since joining a dating site, I have, once again, made myself vulnerable to distraction and attention neither of which serves my long-term purpose to be my own person but have met some very interesting people who are in similar situations and have shared and offered insight into this process as newly single individuals, with children and new goals. I have had one person in particular who has been emotionally supportive so I struggle with falling prey to my own weakness and staying on course with defining myself and purpose. My goal is to be a solid ME that remains the same whether or not in a relationship.
My purpose is to continue sharing my journey to help inspire others who may feel paralyzed in their situation. The mind is powerful and I’m learning that once a decision is made, one tends to start making the choices that align with the decision. For me, it was regaining my identity as Debbie in addition to Mommy and formerly Mrs and finding the strength to redirect myself to live a life of passion, purpose and happiness.
Embarking on Book 2, Chapter 1, excited to see how it all transpires, full of ideas and what could be and seizing and creating opportunities: networking, reaching-out and LEARNING…To believing in your truth and happiness…to alignment of mind, body and soul.