My Facebook Addiction…

FBcartoonMy relationship with Facebook started innocuously 5 years ago to reconnect with old friends, stay in contact with existing friends and family, to network and share information.

It’s been 2 days since I decided to deactivate my account and with most addicts, we think we can control our addiction but, the reality is more likely that we can’t, which is why I decided to go cold turkey, deactivate and not log-on for a while, if ever.

There is nothing wrong with Facebook.  It was how I interacted and used it that became an issue.  I started to live two realities: my Facebook and in-person reality when posting with intention to stay in contact and share information became posting to elicit a response that now had the power to dictate my mood and quality of day by likes and comments.  Instead of real-life experiences nurturing and nourishing my self-esteem and confidence, I had allowed a social media platform to assume this role.

A recent Huffington Post Parents article describes how we, as parents, have become so consumed with recording our children’s performances on electronic devices that we actually miss the performance seeing it from behind a lens.  And so it was with me, as the editor, photographer and writer of my very own Facebook reality magazine.

Two days ago, I posted a photo just to post so I thought but deep down, I realize it was related to my self-esteem by seeing how many likes and comments it would receive.  The post ignited a conversation with a close friend who left me to ponder my Facebook addiction with “that’s BS, you’ll be back on it tomorrow, you need it”.

There are many reasons for ending this relationship, but, in a nutshell, I did it because with all addictions, it was unhealthy. Since deactivating my account, my mind is more focused, more present in the moment but, most importantly, in more control of my reality and life.  Everyone is different and I am not passing judgment on Facebook and/or Facebook users.  I am sharing my own experience and also letting my family and friends know why I deactivated my account.

We define our reality by the daily choices we make.  Believe!

5 responses

  1. I am struggling with idea of deactivating mine. I know I spend way too much time on it and then on the other hand, I post countless updates and picture of my son for my distant family and even close family to see. It’s a hard decision to make. Good luck on kicking your habit!

  2. Hi Debbie! I was just thinking of you and looking for your address. I was going to message you on fb for it and you disappeared 🙂 I wanted to wish you the happiest of holidays and best of luck on all your endeavors this year. You are a beautiful person through and through! You are also a wonderful writer. Hope 2014 brings you continued health and happiness. Love, Ashley Serafin

  3. Hi Debbie,

    I will miss your wonderful openness and honesty on Facebook; however, from my own life experience I completely support and respect the pursuit of self awareness and the authentic you. It was such a pleasure to meet you and get to know you a little at FNS, I wish you nothing but peace and happiness.

    Rick I

    • Hi Rick,

      Happy Holidays to you and your family. I so appreciate your kind words and support and though I miss the connection and contact with friends and ability to share with a wider audience at once, I believe the choice and change has been a positive one for me. Please stay in touch and hope to see you one of these days at FNS.


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