Purposeful daily acts…

“30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself” by Marc Chernoff

24. Start working toward your goals every single day. – Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every day to make it happen. Get out there and DO something! The harder you work the luckier you will become. While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it. By ‘working on it,’ I mean consistently devoting oneself to the end result. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
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MTBPurposeful daily acts > Big grand ideas

I thought about what makes this seem so obvious and yet not readily apparent otherwise we would all be living our dreams and be successful. My theory is that we start living our lives as should’s based on several factors and before we realize what is happening, our should’s become our habits and our habits become our reality. Reality is to adults what dreams are to children and, unfortunately, more often than not, reality gets in the way of our dreams. If we think about how we want to remember our lives, I’m quite sure we would be most proud of a life of passion and purpose and not daily to do’s.

What does this mean? It may mean changing habits, taking chances, pausing to think about what makes us feel alive and happy. Where to start and how to begin? Maybe noting in a notebook ideas, moments, things, people, places and activities that make us feel alive, happy, in the zone and aligned. “If failure weren’t an option, what would you want to do”. How do we wish to remember our life? What would we be doing now that would allow us to reflect on a life without regret? The quality and content of a question can be as valuable as the answer.

My dream changed the course of my life. Now that I’m here, I can’t imagine anywhere else despite never imagining at where I am. I do wonder exactly how my dreams will become reality but I’m also driven by a force that seems to be pulling me along. What I know is that I now live with purpose and passion and it has changed not only the quality of my life but determined the rest of my life and how I will live it.

The photo was taken by a very dear friend and represents persevering through tough times (the fog) to discover the reward for doing so, the sunset. Life is full of options, choices, decisions and opportunities…we are the life we create. BELIEVE!!

“Dreams are within Reach…”

When I reflect on the past 6 years of my life and where I’m at today, it almost seems like destiny but is a result of decisions that were not always immediately apparent, sometimes painful but fundamental to the life I decided I needed and wanted to live.  What has transpired during the time was a realization that I wasn’t living a life of passion and purpose though I always wanted to be a Mom and relish having children but was left with a void as an individual and not fully nourished or nourishing as a partner.  I went from being a very involved school volunteer to an empowered individual through fitness.  During the transition, I dealt with guilt of being less involved and more attentive and attuned to my own needs as both an individual and partner.

Sharing my journey wasn’t planned because I didn’t know I had one until I started living my changes and transition.  My blog has become my purpose to help inspire others to believe in themselves, their dreams, passion and purpose in life because I was at a point in life where I could have gone either way: live life in the grey and in motion or believe in dreams and purpose and live a life of passion.

When we meet people who are successful or who seem to have reached their goals and fulfilled their dreams, it almost seems like it happened ‘overnight’.  What I realized and am realizing myself is that life is a journey and not an overnight success.  How I am physically through my love of fitness started 6 years ago and has empowered me to believe in myself and my dreams as a Mom with two in her 40’s.

This video clip was created by a photographer friend who paired Rocky’s motivational speech with an image he took to represent my journey: it does capture my purpose and dream.  BELIEVE!!

Gratitude…

yogaI am so grateful for everything but there are moments when a convergence of overwhelming emotions and feelings occur and then I have a moment like right now…

In the past week alone, I have been touched by a friend who offered to bring over bone broth when I was fever ridden, a dear and old friend from HK persevere despite her unanswered calls who was ecstatic by a simple and long overdue email from me, my children’s friends’ Moms’, my dear GF’s, who are anxious to see my new home, my children who love me unconditionally as their Mommy despite my occasional zany ways , my family who has always been and is here for me and to someone so very special there are no words to describe my gratitude and thankfulness.

I feel slightly stressed thinking about my ‘purpose list’ (no longer to do list), a little overwhelmed by all that has transpired this week, let alone this past year, with a home sale, new home, family health scare, a new phase in life with a new parenting schedule and all that it entails, school prep as a Mom, my own needs and wants as an individual and a blog that has assumed a life of its own with advertising inquiries.

I couldn’t be more blessed, happy and full of life and passion. I am asked if “I am ok?”. The answer is a resounding YES!! Mandy Hale, “GROWTH is painful. CHANGE is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”

www.gabbyandlaird.com…

gabbyIt was a thrill to briefly meet Gabby and Laird Hamilton or, more appropriately, me giddily ask for a photo with two people I admire for their lifestyle: active, down-to-earth and inspiring.  If I could relive that moment, I would have approached Gabby differently than I did but I was caught-off-guard and they were busy entertaining many at Laird’s paddle board booth.

Choices…

jessTwo decades separate my friend and me…our choice, a state of mind, make it yours to feel and look your best at any age and point in time!
I accept that I won’t be getting much sleep tonight as the time diminishes between now and the time at which my alarm has been set for a morning workout!  I feel like it’s been forever since I’ve last posted here and I didn’t want another day to pass before posting!
Upon my return from attending IDEA, a worldwide fitness and health convention that was held in Anaheim, CA at LA LIVE, I almost immediately fell ill with a 24 hour bug.  The last time this happened was almost identical to this occurrence of being on the go with little sleep and then upon slowing down, almost immediately beset with forced rest and recovery.
While wriggling in bed on Monday, all I wanted to do was share my experience at the conference here on my blog.  Initially, I couldn’t quite figure-out what it was about this particular convention of professionals that distinguished it from a few others I’ve attended and I realized it could be described in two words: energy and passion both essential components to fitness as a lifestyle.
I debated how to share my weekend experience with photos and decided to accompany a few photos with captions with others meriting posts.  Here I share one photo of one of two roommates/friends I joined at the conference.  I realized that two decades separate us though we have fitness and laughter in common.
Just wanted to post this to say…thank you for sharing this journey of ours to live a life of passion.  I will be posting photos and stories in the next day.

Contact information…

As I navigate my way through this blogging world trying to figure-out how to enhance my site, here is my contact info posted as a post!

bicepmom888@gmail.com

FB page: bicepmom

Instagram: bicepmom

Thank you for your support and for sharing your journey with me.  A little side note about how the name came to be…a friend and fellow blogger tossed-out this name while helping me with my blog and it stuck because it’s short, memorable and funny. Thank you newtritionsavvysarah.com (my friends’ blog and FB page name) for the name and your help! Check-out her site for her healthy tips on recipes, food and her favorite things.

“Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance”

viprquote“Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. – In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.”

I think I need to stop saying this is another favorite because so far each and every point of recent has been a favorite including this one (the complete list is shared point/day on my FB bicepmom page).

The Nike slogan “just do it” perfectly sums-up this one!  Parting after 18 years of marriage was to give my ideas and dreams a chance.  A recent quote I read seems so relevant here: “saying you have no option is relieving yourself of all responsibility”.  I could have continued to believe and say I had no option but I did and it was one that required taking a chance: staying was certainty.

Yes I am a Mom and with that comes an enormous amount of responsibility and yes, I was a wife, with a partner who was my best friend who supported, encouraged and shared some of the most intimate moments and life’s joys at one point in time but, along the way of living life, things happen and change. I respect the father of my children and what we had but it no longer nourished and nurtured the me I am today.

Visualizing dreams is the first step and in between that and making them happen is daily life with intent: it’s like a stage backdrop that sets the tone and determines the actors’ words and actions.  One of my dreams is to present my journey to women who are at a crossroads in life with an accompanying rapper ((yes, I have someone in particular in mind) while I peel away the layers of clothing that represent the should’s of Moms to share what I am today physically which is the result of a series of choices and is now my lifestyle.  Fitness is the physical manifestation of my journey of creating and defining the me of today.

Six years ago this November, I took my first step into fitness and about 3 years ago I created this blog that started with a few entries and lay dormant until about 6 months ago.  What has materialized since then with the blog is beyond what I had ever imagined or planned but is one of the driving forces behind living my dreams. BELIEVE because it’s your belief that will fuel your strength to start creating quantifiable changes in your life. The best part of living your passion and truth is that you start living the life of your dreams :). BELIEVE because it’s happening right now and right here :)!!