Our state of being and mind is a choice, OUR VERY OWN…

flyflowersThis morning I awoke early to attend a 6am exercise class. With summer upon us and my children’s camp schedule, I have had to make accommodations to my own. I actually love waking-up with a workout. I found myself smiling broadly this morning on the way to my fitness facility and recall that’s how I awoke everyday as a child. It made me realize that as adults, we often, or at least I do, wake-up immediately thinking about our to do list instead of just being happy about the day.

Once the decision was made to part ways with the father of my children after 24 years of friendship and 18 years of marriage, I promised myself that I would make every day count and live it with passion and purpose. Of course, there are days when I don’t feel all too productive but I will try my best to live in alignment with my words, thoughts and actions. Happiness is a choice and decision!! Let it be yours and yours alone :)!!

Gift of friendship…

frienshipflowersHad a wonderful weekend with a dear friend I met last year in line for the bus to the start of the 2nd half of the San Francisco Marathon. During the period between waiting in line for the bus to the start of the 2nd half (approximately 2 hours), we managed to share enough of our life stories to realize we had enough in common to stay in touch as she lives in So Cal and I in No Cal.

After a year, we reunited this past weekend to run the SF Full. We picked-up from where we left-off and with neither of us training for distance as running has not been part of my regular exercise routine and she was in recovery mode, we finished together with a smile and injury-free having jogged and walked it in 6 hours (or as I have termed it, jalk).

I had hesitations and doubts about 26.2 miles without ever having run more than 13.1 but she is a regular runner and paced us. I also knew that this was to be an experience about friendship and inspiration and not time and a race and, consequently, it was the most enjoyable race I have participated in. The weekend made me realize even more how important dear and true friends are to our well-being. Take the time and make the effort to nurture true and dear friends as they are the ones who fill-in the gaps in our lives.

In the photo, we are wearing our friendship flowers she gifted me.  The story behind the company and women who created the flower is an inspiring one found at http://www.fellowflowers.com.

The Gift of Giving…

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Each month at the facility where I train, a member is recognized for their contributions, achievements and otherwise to the community and June was my month.  I was honored by the recognition but because of its culture, I wanted to re-dedicate the ceremonial sledgehammer back to the community and head coach and owner, Brian Nunez, for all its been to me this past year. The facility is more than just fitness, it’s a supportive, motivating and inspiring community with a leader like none other.

I shared a few words that day…What I learned most from FNS and Brian is the gift of giving, that is, giving with no expectation and with genuine intention.  If you are able to do this, you will never be disappointed (as with all in life when you release expectations) and be in total control of your feelings because your intention has been set.

In life, at the very core and, at the end of the day, we need to do what is right for ourselves because we are the ones living our life and walking our footsteps.  We need to assume full responsibility for the quality of our life by the decisions and choices we make from small to big, daily to long-term.  When I say our life, as a Mom, I realize my children are at the heart of my life so I consider them (of course) but I am an individual who needs to be at peace and happy with myself so I am that with them.

Love, Passion, Truth and BELIEVE!!

“It’s not what happens to you. It’s what you do with what happens to you.” ~ Chris Waddell (friend, fellow alum and most decorated paralympic athlete)

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When I created this blog in September 2011, I had no idea it would be a journal of my thoughts and experiences and where I’m at in my life today.  I set-out with the intention to chronicle my journey from diapers to dreams wanting to stick to a format but, instead, I find myself writing what I’m thinking at the moment.  I see this as a metaphor to my life of should’s which were college, work, marriage and kids but instead what’s transpired is unexpected as a wife, Mom, individual and now divorcee.

I think the dreams we are born with and believe in as children are the most closely aligned with our heart and passion because I’m finding that what I want are my childhood dreams. My challenge now is to balance my live in the moment modus with my long-term goals and purpose which is to inspire other women/Moms’ who are in a similar situation as myself to believe that individuality and life aren’t defined only by the role of Mom and wife.  There are moments and days now when I do have uncertainties about the decision I am living, but, I know in my heart, it is the right one.  So with this in mind, I will not stop until I am living my dream and I am here hoping we all do the same.

To dreams: having, believing and living them!!  If the desire/your why is strong enough, you will find a way to realize it.  Determination is key and, as parents, we know how difficult it is to ‘control’ even a 10 lb muscle at the age of 6 plus months!!  They only know what they want at that moment and they do all they can to get it!! The key to their success in getting us to give-in are two-fold: determination and focus :)!!

Love and self-acceptance…

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I think this is very true…when we are full of love and self-acceptance, we emanate positivity and endear those around us. Tyra Banks coined the term “smize” (smile with your eyes) and it made me think of another “smeart” (smile with your heart). Identify and pursue your passion to live your truth and you will be smizing and smearting :)!!